A guide on what not to do in relationships
Hello my lovely’s, how are we doing today? Finally managed to get a good night sleep in me! I had my boyfriend over, I felt super safe and relaxed with him being there :).
I have been trying to post this blog post since late last night, but the WiFi wasn’t having it, and then decided to delete it .. Fun times right.
I thought that it would be interesting and helpful to note down what you shouldn’t do in relationships; I was treated badly in the past; from my ex’s behaviours I have created a list of what not to do in relationships.
Most of these are common sense, but there are things out there which some people might not know. If you want to give this post a little read then go ahead :).
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I’ve had 3 years of experience with relationships, in this time frame I had 3 relationships (not including the one I’m in now). I’m not going to name names, but these 3 individuals taught me a lot about how bad relationships can be; because before I met Chris, I was never truly happy; simply because I was never treated right.
I’ve been cheated on countless times, hurt mentally and physically. Not all of them physically hurt me, only one of them, and that was my first ever boyfriend; if you want to know more about that situation click here.
I still am a very shy and kind person, maybe I was too kind to all of them, if they wanted anything I gave my all, but in return they gave nothing back, they took advantage of my personality. But I have learnt so much from these people, I have learnt to become stronger as a person, and not have to give everything up. Now I am truly and utterly happy with Chris, we have nearly been together a year :).
Don’t lie to your partner:
This sounds obvious, and for some people out there who are reading this is probably thinking I’m stupid. I’m really not. Don’t lie to your other half, I can’t stress enough how much this hurt me over the years, I don’t care how much the truth hurts, I can handle the truth. Lies ruin trust, which is one of the main factors in a relationship; it’s the glue that holds everything together-if that is broken chances are you won’t be together very long after that incidence. Female or male, just don’t lie, if you can’t be truthful to the person you claim to love then leave, because they don’t deserve to be treated in this way.
Some of the lies that I was told was told ruined me:
- “I would never cheat on you, you’re my world”;
- “I love you”;
- “I will always be there for you”;
- “she’s nobody, just a friend, she’s like a sister to me”
- “I was out in town, sorry I was late”;
- “my Granddad died”
Don’t put their hopes up and bring them down:
I can’t stress this enough, if you can’t keep your word, or do what you say you are going to do, either change the way you treat people or leave your current partner; simply because this is heartbreaking.
Don’t take advantage of them:
Don’t ask or take money:
Don’t ask for money, or even guilt trip them into giving you money. That is their money, they have worked hard for that, if they want to treat you they will, but only when they want to and if they can afford to. If you ask for money on a regular basis get your own job or spend your own wages. In my case I had an ex who would constantly ask for money, and I would give it to them as they would make me feel awful if I didn’t. They would also steal from me, all of my hard working pennies went on them; and not because I wanted to. This ruins relationships, I wish I left that person sooner; but because of certain circumstances I couldn’t.